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Adoptee Relationships

To deny someone’s truth is to impose your reality onto them. Therefore I see this as not being the problem of the adoptee but the problem of the family member to firstly not understand the full gamut of the situation.

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My Reality of Adoption

If you have read any of my previous articles, you would know that the majority of it is dark, confronting and full of angst. My intention was to start writing this article with the distrust and hate, imposed on me from the confusion of adoption. Instead I’ve come to realise that as much as I […]

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The cloak in the mirror

I don’t know where to start because everything seems so out of place. I guess. It’s like being on the opposite side of the mirror. I remember thinking that I’ve always wanted to be on the other side of the mirror. Are used to stand there and look at myself and wonder how is this my life, […]

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Mothers Day for an adoptee

The normal experience for an adoptee is feeling secretly disjointed, exposed, racked with guilt for not bonding with their adoptive mother. We are told to be grateful for that connection but we never had or couldn’t develop it. At the same time having extreme feelings of loss and grief of not knowing their birth mother. […]

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Dear Adoptive Mother

Even before I entered this world, I gave up my original identity, for you. When I was born, I gave up knowing my birth mother, for you Even before I knew I was adopted, I gave my self up, for you. After you told me I was adopted at the age of 4, I gave […]

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“Seven” is no longer my luck number

Part 1 Given all the research about trends in the lives of adoptees, each adopted person will have unique feelings, experiences, and thoughts about his or her adoption. Some of these differences may be accounted for by individual personality traits, coping mechanisms, or other life events, but circumstances surrounding the adoption also may affect how […]

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Adoption is a psychological barrier

Adoption is a psychological barrier. Not knowing how or why you got there. It feels like you are forced to live your life in a bubble chained to the ground that belongs to someone else. Inside your head, your brain feels like it’s being restricted, with a thick invisible fog that’s anchored at the base […]

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What adoption did to me

Extended version Ever look at a complete stranger and wonder who they are? What makes you come to a conclusion of acceptances or rejection in what seems a microsecond. How do you read people? Is it their appearance, what they are wearing, or the look of their face? Maybe it’s deeper than that. What do […]

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So You Have Had a Run in with Those Anti-Adoption People

FEBRUARY 9, 2015 Dear Adoptive Parents or Those Considering Adoption, I hope that you can bare reading this if I have linked you here. I understand that you might not be liking everything you are reading right now, but perhaps this can help?  In any case, if I linked you here, it’s going to most […]

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